By Phillip Starr
Another
question posed by one of our senior instructors was about how much or
how often one should train. When are we "wimping out?" When
is enough really enough?
Naturally,
every instructor wants his/her students to train as much as possible
and will encourage students to do so at every opportunity. But it
really depends on what goals the student has set for him/her self.
One who is interested only in getting fit has different needs (and
desires) than one who is only interested in self-defense, one who
wants to learn the "whole" of a martial art, and so on. I
think it's important for each and every student to decide just what
it is that he/she wants out of training, and that's not as simple a
task as it may sound. Some people don't really know what it is they
want. And if you don't know what you want, you certainly have no idea
about how to get it!

Even
within a given "goal", there are subtle delineations. For
instance, let's say that you practice martial arts because you want
to get into better physical condition. Period. WHAT, exactly, do you
mean by "better physical condition?" Do you want to lose or
gain weight? How much? Within what approximate time frame? Do you
want to get stronger? How so? What do you mean by "stronger?"
You need to be very specific about what it is that you want. If you
have no goal, you don't know which road to take.
If
your goal is the acquisition of self-defense skills, just what do you
mean? Simple self-defense (against simple forms of attack such as
grabs, pushes, and punches)? Or more complex things like defense
against an armed aggressor? Multiple aggressors?
If
you aim to learn "real martial arts", what do you mean?
What is your definition of "real martial arts?" It may be
different from that of your teacher and this can lead to frustration
and discouragement for both of you.
Now,
the ideal MINIMUM amount of training for learning classical martial
arts requires attending class 2-3 times each week. Naturally, this is
not always possible. Many instructors cannot teach class that
frequently for one reason or another - but if the teacher can't
conduct a formal class that often, then it's up to YOU to make up for
it by training on your own (or getting together with classmates at
certain times). If the amount of training is reduced, the length of
time it will take you to achieve your goal is naturally lengthened
substantially. If you train enough on your own to EXCEED three
classes weekly, so much the better. Your progress will be
significantly enhanced.

I
recall a student who approached me years ago and expressed his
disappointment. "I'm just not moving along as fast as I want
to," he said. "I really try, but it seems like I'm just not
going anywhere." I pointed out a couple of things to
him..."Well," I began, "You're only coming to class
about once a week. Sometimes twice. You're not training on your own,
either. You reap what you sow." He didn't much care for my
response and he dropped out soon afterwards. Ah, well. As an
instructor, I can only do so much. There's no magic pill. Regular,
consistent training is the secret. If a student won't do that, I
cannot possibly help him/her.

When
you draw up a training schedule, be realistic. Don't set a schedule
that you cannot or will not follow. But once you draw it up, stick to
it, come hell or high water (well, for the most part). I suggest
training 6 days a week...but that's for people who want to learn the
whole thing. Each workout need not be too awfully long; it depends on
how much time is available. My own workout lasts about 90 minutes.
Some people have only 30 minutes or less, and that's fine. It's what
you put into the available time you have that matters.

Of
course, many people cannot train 6 days a week. After all, this is
the 21st century and we have jobs, school, and families...many other
responsibilities besides training. That's why I say that you have to
be realistic. Don't make a schedule that you cannot follow because
you'll only frustrate yourself. If you CAN train six days a week and
you WANT to do it, then fine. If not, then make a schedule that you
CAN and WILL follow. The schedule, whatever it is, has to be regular.
Avoid
over-training. You'll burn out. Take your time and be gentle with
yourself. Don't over-tax your body and mind. Pushing yourself
(gently) is one thing, but beating yourself up is another. But you
SHOULD push a bit each time you train...
When
are you "wimping out?" I think we all know the answer to
that. When you know in your own heart that you're wimping out, then
you are. When your reason(s) for not practicing are reasons that you
would not accept if you were your instructor, then you know your
spirit is starting to weaken. For instance:
*"I
had a stressful day." Give me a break. Life is stressful.
*"I
have two cracked ribs." OK. Sit down and enjoy the show. Watch
the History Channel...
*"I
have a sprained wrist." Fine. Do you kick with your wrists? Come
on. Stop being a wimp.
*"I
have homework." Want to keep your mind sharp? Keep your body
sharp. A little training will do more for your schoolwork than you
might imagine.
*"I
have a migraine." I sympathize. Take a nap.
*"My
boss really made me mad." OK. So, go kill the s.o.b. or practice
for a while to let off some steam.
*"I
don't have enough room to practice at home." C'mon. I lived in a
mobile home. Try training in a submarine sometime. If you can stand
up, you can practice.
*"I
have the shizzling drits." Stay home. Have a peachy night. Eat
some cheese.
ad
nauseum...
After
teaching for several decades, I like to think I've heard every excuse
there is, but I know I haven't. I saw one guy come to class on
crutches because he'd been in a motorcycle wreck and broken his leg.
He sat on the floor and practiced hand techniques! One of the
students here broke his big toe (a really NICE job, too) but never
missed a class. John Morrow, one of my oldest students, used to
hitch-hike (with his friend) 25 miles to class (and then back home
again) three times a week! Mark Hachey maintained a 4.0 grade point
average in nursing college while training for several hours each day.
Another student used to travel to Omaha from Lincoln (50 miles each
way) to attend class.
And
then I've had students miss or stop training because their spouses
(or significant others) didn't like it, because they forgot their
training shoes, because it was raining...
If
you want to achieve anything in this life, it's going to require some
effort and sacrifice. The most valuable things are things which
cannot be handed to you; they're things which you must get for
yourself (although someone may help you along).
It's
easy to become distracted. This is why you have to set realistic
goals (and WRITE THEM DOWN!), realistic training schedules (DITTO),
and then stick to them. Over the years, I've had probably hundreds of
students who could have made it, but who gave in to distractions or
refused to make the small but necessary sacrifices.
A
really common situation involves a spouse who doesn't understand why
or what you're doing...I hope I'm not stepping on too many toes here,
but this really is a common problem and has been the end of many a
promising (martial arts) career. Let me begin by saying that family
is more important than anything else. Never sacrifice your family for
martial arts.
But...
A
married couple consists of two different human beings. Now, I'm
certainly no marriage counselor but I feel that I know something of
this subject :-) So. Each of us has a life which is necessarily
separate from our spouse or significant other. We have to. It is
simply not possible to include a spouse in 100% of everything we do
and even if it was possible, it would be terribly unhealthy for the
relationship.
I
have known many people whose spouse demanded that he/she spend every
free minute with him/her/the family. This suggests to me that the
spouse in question has some psychological issues regarding feelings
of security and inadequacies...and such relationships often do not
last. Each of us needs time to him/her self on a regular basis. This
is, I think, essential for good mental health as well as for
building a nurturing, trusting, and strong relationship.
We
need to give each other the time and space to be ourselves and if one
of us likes to practice martial arts as a way of improving ourselves,
so much the better. Both parties will benefit from the effort, even
if only one is practicing martial arts.
When
a student comes to me and says that his wife or her husband doesn't
want him/her to attend class or practice at home, it places me in a
most difficult situation. Naturally, my initial response is to help
my student...but I often have to hold my tongue in check so as not to
offend anyone. But now that I'm older, I'm less inclined to bite my
tongue. The fact is that if one's spouse discourages participation in
training, it can seriously damage the relationship...and where does
it end? What if you took up basket-weaving? Would you be discouraged
from doing that as well?
The
fact is that we all train so as to improve ourselves. This is done
not only for ourselves, but for our families as well. If we are in
better physical, mental, and emotional shape, our families can only
benefit from it.
If
my wife wanted to attend a quilting class, that would be fine with
me. She ran a small aerobics class after hours in my school in Omaha
(after I had come home from the school), and that was fine. I allowed
her to be herself and to do the things that made her happy (except
for painting my bathroom a God-awful purple). If she was happy with
herself, I benefited from it.
As
I mentioned earlier, you must be very specific about your short and
long-term goals. You must know WHY you're training and what you
intend to get out of it. Feel free to show it to your instructor as
it will greatly assist him in evaluating your needs and helping you
to achieve your goals.
At
the same time, be realistic. If you only train once a week, you will
not make it to black belt within a year! If a black belt is what you
want (or rather, the skill and knowledge that comes with it), then
discuss it with your teacher. If you intend to go beyond a mere
first-grade black belt, sit down with your instructor and talk about
what you need to do. That's what he's there for and it's it's what he
wants and needs for you to do. Don't force him to guess at what you
want. Let him know where you plan to go with your training. If YOU
don't know where you're going, he won't, either...and he can't be of
much help.
A
word about over-training. If your body begins to show telltale signs
of wear and tear from too much "youthful enthusiasm" (as
one of my teachers used to call it); that is, "over-training",
then you need to back off on the gas a bit. Take your time. Give your
body and mind time to digest everything. Don't gulp your food. Savor
it.